Amrita - aka Female Ejaculation

First of all, I think it’s important to note that I am listening to Tracy Chapman’s “Give me One Reason Why”… while I write this!

That being said, I did a talk last night for about 10 people discussing women’s orgasm and Amrita. I’m always amazed to see the energetic expansion happening during these sessions. It’s something everyone wants to learn more about and experience. Both men and women.

I discovered Amrita for myself about 15 years ago – by accident – during an especially sexual experience with someone. I don’t know how long the event was – but it had to have been hours. I felt things that I had never felt before, feeling transported to timeless psychedelic dimensions.

When it was all “over” – there wasn’t a specific end point, rather it just slowed down and there came a point that I regained awareness of time and the material world I noticed a huge “spill” on the bed. It was about 1 meter in diameter, and had puddled in some spots. “Did I pee?” – I asked the guy. He seemed confused too and told me that he also was wondering what had happened – “it’s not pee” he said. “It doesn’t smell of anything, and it doesn’t taste like pee”. “And It’s actually kind of sweet tasting”. So the mystery began…

I had to find out what had happened to me.

Now my work with pregnancy and birth over the years has given me insight into some of the mysteries of women, specifically when it comes to the sexual/reproductive system. This thing that had happened to me, I instinctively felt, was something important.

So I began researching it – speaking with other women and reading everything I could about it (there’s not much and a lot of what is out there is either confusing, or just plain wrong). I also embarked on a lot of “field” research. Happy to say how much fun that has been! I learn something new constantly….

So here is some of what I’ve discovered. Important to note before I continue, that I believe this phenomena of Amrita to be a key not only for better birth outcomes, but for an overall awakening of women on deep levels. The more I learn and experience, the bigger I believe this topic to be. Ok so here goes…

Female ejaculation. Squirting. It has different names. I prefer Amrita as it is a beautiful Sanskrit word that means “The Sacred Water of Eternal Life”. There are historical records of it primarily in ancient artifacts. It is believed to be a sacred spiritual practice – one that all women are capable of experiencing. However, it seems that only a small percentage of women actually do. I feel like I could actually write a whole book on this subject alone, but for our purposes here, I’ll keep it as simple as I can.

Why do only a few women experience this when physiologically all women should be able to? It’s an important question that we can only speculate as to what the answers are as none of us really know what happened. The suppression of women as an integral element of perpetuating the dominant system, removing their power on as many levels as is possible while perpetuating a constant state of internal shame – would play into it somewhere though, I’m sure. 

Can you imagine a world where only 2-4 percent of men ever ejaculated during sex? That would be crazy – so weird! And yet, that is exactly what has happened to women. Somewhere along the ages, we either forgot or it was forced out of us. I’m speaking now of course about our western culture. We know anthropologically that it is a common practice in some cultures, usually “primitive” ones.

Yet, in our culture, sex has been portrayed and believed to be primarily an act that is completed once the man has an orgasm by ejaculating. This has been the focus. And continually perpetuated. The crescendo of the man’s orgasm signifying the conclusion of the event. Meanwhile the woman lays silent. Inwardly feeling a multitude of things – usually most of them rooted in a combination of feeling unfulfilled and feeling used. Maybe occasionally we have an orgasm but rarely is it the focus of the event, nor is it what it could be. We’ve gotten to a place that we don’t even know what we’re capable of. You wouldn’t believe how many women have told me that they’ve never even had an orgasm. And we have continued to remain silent. Accepting what is. For generations.

Why have we as women gone along with this idea that our male partners’ sexual gratification is really all that matters? Why have we relinquished this part of who we are, obviously driven by the idea that we simply aren’t important enough? 

Maybe I’m just speaking for myself here, as I know this was (past tense) my story. Yet, I’ve spoken up about this for a number of years now and the response that I’ve received is that I’m not alone in this. It is the norm.

And we could spend a lot of time dissecting it all – how we got here – what we’ve inherited – etc. but at the end of it all I think we can simply say that it is what it is and move forward. Change it to something that feels better to us. I believe this is happening and the change has already been initiated on a collective level. Yay! Finally!

I know that it changed my life once I began experiencing Amrita. As did my first home birth. As did my first 42 day Nest experience. As did the time when I sold all I owned and moved to Costa Rica. These things changed me in a positive way more than anything else I’ve ever done. Amrita being on the list – it’s that big.

So what is Amrita exactly? 

It’s a spiritual event. Historically it is known as the “Water of Eternal Life”. Artifacts depict people drinking it for its sacred properties. Ancient writings claim that a person is not truly fully incarnated unless the Amrita and the male sperm are both present at the time of conception. 

On a more physical level, it is a fluid that is projected out of the urethra during orgasm for a female. It can be one simple and small projection or it can be a series of projections that last over a long period of time – like hours – some of them being small amounts some being large amounts…like liters. 

I’d also like to propose that we define female orgasm differently than what we’ve been told (primarily by male scientists by the way…). I don’t believe that there are different orgasms such as clitoral, cervical, uterine, etc. I believe that these differing sensations are all parts of the same thing. That thing is the Clitoris. Therefore, I’d like to propose that they all be defined as Clitoral Orgasms felt and manifested in different ways and different areas. A woman doesn’t necessarily have “multiple orgasms” but rather these are simply “peaks” within one larger orgasmic event. We don’t have a one-and-done orgasm like a man does. Ours are much more complex and involved and last much longer.

First of all, most people believe the Clitoris to be a small little spot to the north of our Yoni. In actuality, that little magical spot is only a small and external part of the Clitoris organ that is located primarily inside our bodies. The clitoris has about the same surface mass as a penis, yet has almost double the amount of nerve endings. It is wishbone shaped – and surrounds the Yoni (Vagina). 

You can locate the top part of it by entering the Yoni and rather than going to the end of the Yoni where the cervix would be, you stop about a knuckles length in and you’ll notice a curve inside and towards the front of the body, like a hook shape. The area will feel like a walnut, with ridges on it. The idea is to go into that secret “cave” and follow the curve until you can’t go any further – to the very end of it. This has typically been called the “G Spot” in the past, however I prefer a different term as the “G” stands for a doctor named Grafenburg. A male doctor who is purported to have “discovered” this area. I prefer the term “CLITORIS” as that is exactly what it is. You are feeling the top part of the wishbone part of the Clitoris through the walls of the Yoni. 

This specific spot of the Clitoris though, if you want to give it a term, I prefer “Sacred Area” over the G Spot as it’s much larger than just a spot. It is a whole area. But it is this area that holds so much power and seems to be the catalyzing area to release the Amrita. Although once you’ve opened the Amrita gate, in subsequent events, a simple nipple stimulation can result in an Amrita release.

Now, how to initiate this release for those who haven’t yet experienced it? Or putting it a different way – how to unlock the true power of orgasm? Important not just for experiencing our deepest selves, but to bring that same power into our childbirth experience. 

During my research into this, I’ve come up with a practical way that I feel has resulted in success for many people, I won’t claim that it’s by any means the only way – and for sure it’s subject to evolution but for now let’s just say it’s a start. And I’m going to spell it out here for you now.

Here goes:

Begin by not having any sexual contact for one moon (menstrual) cycle. No touching, No nothing. Let your Vulva rest. 

You can do this practice with or without a partner, although I recommend doing it alone for the first time. Partners can certainly become involved during future practices.

On the following cycle during ovulation, do the following:

1. Create a space that you will not be disturbed for several hours.
2. Within that space you will have something that you love that will give you pleasure for each of your senses. So that would mean things like wine and chocolate, essential oils, massage oil, music, dim lighting, soft blankets and pillows. It’s beyond a comfortable space – it feels really nice. It’s your Amrita Nest. Also, have some towels that you will place under your bum while you do this practice. Also, have some water close by to drink.
3. Once everything is in place, go to the bathroom and empty your bladder.
4. Come back to your Nest and get comfortable. Take a bite of chocolate or whatever you’ve prepared. Drink some wine. Be naked. 
5. The music (sometimes I like to listen to Alan Watts lol) – should be playing and all the other elements in place and taken care of.
6. Begin by gently stroking your skin, your legs, your feet, your arms, your neck, your face, etc. Do not touch any “hot” zones like breasts, vulva, thighs, etc. Just stay on the outer sides of them.
7. Once you’ve done this for about 15 minutes, start incorporating the massage oil. I recommend using a natural based oil such as coconut oil. I have a wonderful oil that is a blend of coconut, chocolate, cacao butter and full extract cannabis oil. If you can locate something like that, or make your own – do it! It’s fantastic. And the cannabis oil takes the experience to a whole other level. 
8. Once you have the massage oil going, you can begin to incorporate massaging different parts of your body and slowly and very gently touching the “hot zones” like breasts and thighs (no vulva touching at all though). Do this for another 30 minutes.
9. Once your whole body is activated, you can very slowly and very gently begin stroking the outer vulva area (perineum and outer labia, some inner labia) but do not touch the Clitoris or the Yoni. Go back and forth between breasts and nipples and the outer parts of the vulva. Again very gently, very lovingly. Do this for about 15 minutes.
10. Once you begin to feel aroused and you want to touch your clitoris, stop touching the vulva and go back to just touching the outer areas of your body like legs and arms and neck and face. Do this for another 15 minutes.
11. Once you’ve spent some time with the outer parts of your body, you will return to the breasts, nipples and vulva. Still not touching the clitoris or Yoni. Do this for another 15 minutes.
12. You will probably be going crazy at this point and so yes – go for it! Move into the Yoni and look for the Sacred Area. It will most likely be smooth as it’s been activated and full of blood (wrinkled with ridges when it’s not). Go as far as you possibly can, all the way around the area. Remember, it’s about a knuckles length in, and curved – almost like a hook shape. Go as far as you can around this curved, hook area. Most people stop short – but just keep going until you can’t go any further. There should be a deep satisfactory feeling when you go all the way to the end. Sometimes it’s logistically impossible for you alone to get to the end, and you may need to do this practice with a person that you trust. They should be able to get the right angle to get all the way in there.
13. Once you’ve located the area, with the massage oil, move back and forth with your finger or fingers and very, very gently massage it. Back and forth, side to side, circles, etc. You may stop for a moment and just push on it a little bit. Take breaks every now and then and massage your breasts and nipples again, and then go back in. You are focusing on this area and not the outside clitoris spot. You’re still not touching that at all. Continue to touch the Sacred Area gently for about 5 to 10 minutes. Slowly begin to add more pressure and do that for about 5 minutes.

** I’m going to take a short break right now to discuss something. There is this weird phenomenon that we do as women. I noticed that I had always done it – and then in speaking about it with others, discovered that most women also do it. And that is this sensation of pulling in the energy of orgasm into our bellies. When we begin to feel that we are going to orgasm, we tighten the muscles in our thighs and butt, and do this weird thing where we pull the energy up and inside. I mention this now because it is pivotal to the release of Amrita that we change the direction of that energy to PUSHING OUT rather than pulling in. The stage that we are in – in the process right here which is why I stopped for a minute, is when you will probably begin feeling that default pulling inward sensation.**

1. You will most likely begin to feel the sensations of orgasm, wanting to touch the outside part of the clitoris and just go ahead and come already. But don’t! Continue to massage the sacred area and when you begin to feel that pulling in sensation and tightening of your muscles around that area, consciously tell yourself to push it out instead. And then do it! Push it out. This is when you may have your first release of Amrita. It may be very small or it may gush out. Either way, it counts! It’s the beginning and the gate will then be opened.
2. Keep massaging the area and now gently touching the outside spot of the clitoris. When you feel that you’re about to release from doing that, go back inside to the sacred spot and continue to push out every time you experience the familiar “pulling in” sensation. Keep going back and forth to the Sacred Area and the outer clitoral spot and pushing the sensation out. Eventually you will just end up with a release and with practice, you will eventually get to the place where you will feel the outer and the inner clitoris coming together in the peak of the orgasm.
3. When you feel that it’s come to an end. Breathe. Exhale. Thank yourself for taking the journey. Drink some water. Eat some chocolate. Drink some wine. Take time to process all that you just did. Journal about it if you feel like it. But take the time for yourself in the same way that you would want a partner to hold you after sex. Give yourself plenty of time to lay there, relax and enjoy the space. Recognize that you do actually love yourself at least at some level or you wouldn’t have done what you just did. Be happy for that.

So intense, I know.

There are so many things I want to say right now…mostly I want to say that it’s not always something that happens the first time. I had someone write to me recently to tell me that after 3 years of trying this practice, that she finally got it. Sometimes it can take time.

Many times there are blocks to this release. I’ve heard so many different things. I’ve heard people tell me that they became physically nauseated every time they came close to the release and had to stop. I’ve heard of people getting a sensation that felt like their head was going to split open from the pain and they had to stop. I’ve heard of people having images flash before their closed eyes of parents threatening to physically punish them, being disappointed, feeling rejection and that they were doing something wrong. I’ve heard of people imagining God looking down on them with judgment. I’ve heard of people feeling that there was a brick wall that they just couldn’t get through.

When these blocks happen. Just stop. Take a break. Write about them in a journal. They are GOLD! They will tell you so much about your inner self. You may be surprised. You may not be surprised. Either way, you’ll learn so much and with the information, it will simply give you power. Power to try again (maybe another day) armed with this information and prepared with a counter-attack. Of your choosing. 

I know of one instance when a person kept experiencing the brick wall imagery – she imagined a big strong door within the brick wall that she was able to push against and while it was opening, a gush of water was on the other side pushing her over. 

Another time someone screamed out loud at their parent to get out of the way and to go away and leave them alone. That they were an adult now and their parent had no right to invade their space. They said the parent looked shocked but did indeed just go away. 

There is an opportunity here for some really beneficial deep internal work that for sure we would realize has influenced far more than just our sexuality. Moving beyond it can have so many implications and lead to moving further towards our independence, healing and fulfillment. It may not always feel good and can be scary – but many things that are truly worth it rarely come easily. This will be worth it – but do it in your own time.

Be patient with yourself – remove any judgment. If you’re able to experience this then great! If not, it’s ok too – just keep trying if you want to.

As I always say, it’s the orgasm that I feel has the greatest power to prepare for the birth of our baby, as well as all the other deeper benefits inherent in it.